Monday, May 7, 2007

Friends, how many of us have them?

If grew up in the 80’s you remember that song. ‘Friends… ones we can depend on.’ Go-on ahead and sing it with me. Lol. A friend once told me, “In order to have friends, you must be a friend.” Her voice has stuck with me, even through my hard-headed times of thinking that I can ‘do this by myself.’ And recently, she had to check me. Girl, it was hard to hear. Me. The founder of Girlfriends Get-Together being… unfriendly?!? Well, yes, we all have to be checked sometimes. We get caught up in our lives: appointments, men, job, church, sorority, and did I say men?

Friends are a joyous thing. They can make you laugh, cry, scream, shout and advise you on how your tits look in that shirt. ‘Chile, please. Don’t get that. You look like a $2…” Or my personal motto “Never look into the eyes of a beast.” (That’s when you look at a beast of a guy/person and they inturn look at you, thinking that you are interested in them and proceed to talk your head off or trap you in some sort of vicious dialogue. All the while you are thinking to yourself “Damn, I should have just looked the other way.”) Cherish these friends. Write them a letter (remember how to use a pen, paper and that thing called a stamp?) Call them when you are thinking about them, even if it’s just for a second.

But on the flip side, we have those “friends” that stuck you dry. Those that play the victim, who are needy, who don’t understand that you have a life too and they aren’t the only one who needs a shoulder to cry on. These can be difficult situations as well. But, be strong and deal with them accordingly. At some point in your life, you will need to do a self-assessment. Remember when we did those in grammar and high school to determine whom we would truly be when we grew up? Or when you sorta-kinda like a guy, but feel the need to write out the Pros & Cons list? Well, do this with your “friends.” Yeah, girl, I know; it will be hard. But in the end, you are doing what’s best for you and preserving your mental sanity.

Not that you didn’t know this already, but sometimes, we need another kick in the bumm.
*Pictures were taken at the GGT Washington, D.C. launch event @ Napoleon.

Until next time…
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